We have the “Karen” meme, a logical extrapolation of the “Can I speak to your manager?” woman. And yes, it’s always a woman, and is always white. I suppose we’d need a culturally appropriate name for a similar type of black woman and Hispanic woman–because black and Hispanic Karens exist, believe me–but we’re rolling with “Karen” for now because it’s perfect, albeit unfair to women named Karen.
But the question always remained: What is the nickname for a male Karen? Thanks to this story, I think now we know thanks TL this story from Oklahoma City. We shall call him Stewart.
OKLAHOMA CITY — His name stitched on his uniform shirt didn’t help. Neither did his employer’s name on his delivery truck.
Travis Miller, a furniture and appliance delivery driver making a run Monday through a gated Oklahoma City neighborhood, was held up for more than a half-hour by two white men who blocked his truck with a car and demanded to know why he was there, NBC News reported.
Miller is black.
Was race an issue here? Was it not? I don’t know. But the fact that this (a) is a gated community and (b) only those with a passcode can enter makes one not unreasonably assume that race was a factor here.
I don’t know how gated communities work, but drivers drivers would have to be able to enter, right?
Miller, 42, explained to NBC News that the customer to whom he and a co-worker were delivering had given him the code to get through the gate of the Ashford Hills neighborhood. They made their delivery and were leaving the property when their truck was blocked in by a white Subaru.
The Subaru’s driver, who identified himself as David Stewart, demanded to know why the men were there. NBC News and other media outlets that have reached out to Stewart have been unsuccessful. LaShawn Miller wrote on Facebook that both he and his wife have deleted their social media profiles since Monday’s confrontation.
Stewart, who she dubbed “Gate Code Greg,” also called J.B. Hunt and demanded that her husband destroy the video, she wrote.
“Gate Code Greg” is pretty good, but I like Stewart better.
So this David Stewart guy–not to be confused with my friend, the excellent David V. Stewart–hails from a town called Edmond. Friend of the blog Patrick Walts is very familiar with this town and explained the following to me:
This context helps us determine why the Karen meme resonates: because we all know this busy body who thinks they own the place and are entitled to do whatever they want to whomever they want by virtue of being . . . something.
Is it racial? Is it political? Is it socio-economic? Is it how they were raised? I don’t care. All I knew is that some people are grade-A jerks and think they’re entitled to everything. They come in all shapes and sizes, and all (two) sexes and races. Who’re people are just the easiest target of this because–I guess–we do this most often, although my personal experience is that it’s equally distributed across the races.
I consider the Karen phenomenon an American thing and not a racial thing.
We’re living in an era of unprecedented wealth, convenience, and softness. We’re told time and again that nothing is our fault and that some other jerk is responsible for our woes. This goes to many people’s heads: the affluent think they’re better than all the other mere peons, and the less-affluent think they’re better because they’re somehow being oppressed by those with more than them.
And humility is most definitely not an American virtue.
Speaking of Stewarts names David, the good David Stewart (the one with the V) recently wrote a very good post about Karens in the cultural sphere.
At the end of the day, no matter the context, a Karen, male or female, is the kind of person who sees the world only through one perspective: THEIRS.
Karens are narcissistic, situational sociopaths. And they’re everywhere. Including, presumably, Edmond, Oklahoma.
(Yes, the Karen meme is racist and sexist. I suppose that’s why it’s so funny.)
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