We are all excellent actors. Every one of us.
This is because none of us rarely every say exactly what we’re thinking. Like sliding doors, we mask our true intentions under shifting words and body language.
In a sense, we are all frauds.
That’s quite the charge. The thought struck me while doing some mandatory “Interpersonal Communications” trainings for work. It discussed three main types of communications, depending on the speaker’s intent:
- To inform
- To persuade
- To give feedback
And of course, how each of these is delivered depends on the person you are delivering them to.
Are you trying to give feedback to an assertive person? Then act confidently yourself. But don’t do that with someone who is passive–they need a softer touch.
There are thousands of permutations as to how this can work. But the takeaway is that we all often don’t say what we really want to say in the way we would like to say it.
You’re trying to build trust when you communicate. Trust is good! But sometimes you’re building trust to persuade someone to do something they might not normally do. That’s bad, isn’t it?
Let me put on my lawyer-hat and say that it depends on what that “it” is. Continue reading “Excellent Actors”